Ok, I got excellent responses from yesterday’s post , so this is Part II… the Finale… I promise.

7.  IN HEALTH:

I have been struggling with migraines since I was a teenager.  I mean, the kind that knock you to your knees.  Well, I just learned that I have been throwing away money on advil, excedrin, prescription ibuprofen, and tylenol.  I learned that I wasted time on homemade remedies like pressing the pressure points on my head and hands, soaking my hands in warm water, and placing a cool towel on my forehead.

All I do now is drink GREEN TEA.  That’s right.  GREEN TEA is my cure.  I haven’t had a migraine in two months.  This is after approximately eighteen years of having at least two episodes (meaning, they last for several days straight) a month.  Ha!  Who knew?!

8.  IN RELIGION:

I’ll skip all the hows and whys on this one and just get to my lesson.  I learned that I have never and probably will never be a “religious” person.  I have too many issues with religious practices and “authorities”.  I learned it is better for ME to be “spiritual”.  By this I mean, it is more important for ME to put my personal relationship with God first rather than engage in any ritualistic, doctrinal, typically non-biblical beliefs and practices.

I must read my bible daily, pray to God, commune with others and share of His goodness, be a good steward of His money, and strive daily to be more Christ-like.  This is not bound to any particular church affiliation or pastoral relationship.  Doing these things won’t make me the most popular on a church board, but my spirit will be fulfilled.

9.  IN BLOGGING:

I started this blog on September 17, 2008 because family is important to me and I love to write.  I thought I would just mention daily about some part of family life and perhaps someone would learn something.  But, this blog is more than that.

Throughout the years, I have assisted clients in getting divorced, collecting and delaying child support, terminating and earning custody rights… and I have hated every moment.  Sure, I do my job well.  But, the fighting… the tit for tat… the mean-spirited, back-stabbing, selfishly blood-sucking members of each family that decided it was better to go for blood than remember the love they once shared for each other… or if there never was any love, just remembering “do unto others, as you would have them do unto you”…  Argh!

Although family law is not the only law I practice, it is the field that hangs heaviest on my heart.  I play my part in resolving disputes and further dissolving broken families, but I can’t help but wonder if there was another way.  Was there something I could have done to SAVE the family?  Sure, I wouldn’t have any family law clients if all families were happy all the time (except for adoptions–now, I LOVE those), but I’m ok with that.  Family is that important to me.

Now, for my lesson.  I learned that this blog is not just for me to pore my heart and soul out, but to receive support and knowledge from you, the readers.  This blog is therapeutic for me because I can get my thoughts out, be reminded of the most important things in life when I have a bad moment, and learn from objective strangers… and the few family and friends that pretend to enjoy this blog.    This blog is not just about holding other families together, but MINE as well.

THANK YOU FOR READING.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! 

As we end another year and begin the next, I am looking forward to all the good that 2009 has in store.  I know everything won’t be perfect, but I hope to learn something and grow from everything.  I also hope to shed any negativity from 2008 and start 2009 renewed.  Isn’t that really the beauty of beginning a new year… a new day… a new you?

Since it is common to reflect on the previous year before fully welcoming the next, I’d like to review 2008 and what I learned:

1.  IN LIFE:

My daughter celebrated her first birthday this year on October 23rd .  Well, really she just looked at all of us like we were crazy while WE celebrated her birthday.  What did I learn?  Life is a blessing and everyday should be a celebration.

  She had cake for the first time and enjoyed it… a lot.

2.  IN DEATH:

Several unforgettable celebrities died in 2008, like:  Bernie Mac, Charlton Heston, Ertha Kitt, Heath Ledger, Isaac Hayes, Odetta Holmes, Paul Benedict, Paul Newman, Roy Scheider, Sean Levert, Sydney Pollack, and Tim Russert.  The timing of most of these deaths was very unexpected.

In addition to celebrity deaths, I experienced a more personal brush with death when my grandmother passed away on October 9th. I learned from this… well, I was reminded that life is short.  Make an effort to spend quality time with your family.

  This was the last picture taken of my grandmother.

3.  IN ENTERTAINMENT:

“The Dark Knight” grossed $996,900,728 worldwide.  I learned that I’m not the only one who enjoyed this movie.  I also learned that it’s ok to kick your feet up, relax, and just be entertained sometimes.  In fact, it’s necessary.

4.  IN SPORTS:

During the 2008 Olympic Games, Michael Phelps , a champion swimmer, won the most gold medals (8) at a single Olympics ever.  I learned that with determination and training, one can do anything.

5.  IN ECONOMICS:

Our country is facing the worst economic crisis since the Great Depression.  I personally know of three professional people who have been laid off due to the slowing economy.  Banks have been loaning less and less money, the automobile industry was close to collapse, and both of these cornerstones of our economy were bailed-out by the government.  Home values slumped, credit card interest rates and property taxes increased, and foreclosure and unemployment rates continued to rise.  Gas prices soared and then plummeted, leaving people distrustful about all this crude oil business.

What I learned from this economic mess is: 1.  Material things are definitely not as important as safety, health, and wellness.  2.  Save money and plan for the future.  3.  Budget wisely and purchase only what you can afford.  4.  Things come in cycles.  This, too, shall pass.

6.  IN POLITICS:

Barack Obama became the first black, first non-continental US-born (although, in the state of Hawaii), and most attractive man to be elected President of the United States.    From this I learned that America truly is a land of opportunity.  You can succeed no matter where you come from.

I could go on… but, I have to put my daughter to bed.  She’s not really adjusted to our move yet.  She’s waking in the middle of the night, having only a short nap during the day, and screaming every time between.

What did you learn in 2008?  If I get a lot of feedback from this post, I may continue it tomorrow with Part II.  If you’re uninterested, I’ll move on to something else.

I wish you and yours the best new year possible!  Stay safe and be well!

Happy New Year!!!

I’m scared to step on the scale. 

Laura at Junk-Fundaholics discussed “America’s Worst Holiday Foods ” on Dec. 26th.  I’ll tell you–I am guilty of over-indulging myself this holiday season.  Yes, we’ve been moving.  No, I didn’t have time to cook.  But, surely I have more self-control than to eat all greasy foods, drink carbonated drinks, and eat so many servings of the peach cobbler and red velvet cake my in-laws brought us.  Right?

Apparently, not.

Laura went on to explain:

“…studies show the average person consumes an extra 600 calories a day between Thanksgiving and New Year’s, which translates to an extra six pounds of belly fat heading into 2009.”

Oh, no!  That’s me.

I’ve been complaining about needing to lose more of my preggo weight.  I was doing pretty well too.  I drank lots of water, had the recommended amount of fiber, stayed away from fried foods, counted calories… and then, boom.  Not only have I not been exercising daily, but I started eating Jack-in-the-Box, Sonic, Frenchy’s, and Popeye’s.  My goodness.  I am really ashamed.

The Fitness Diva just addressed this recently in her blog “The Weight of the Holidays “.  She has been reminding me daily about healthy living and I just threw it all to the side this past week.

I’m not even sure I can blame it on the holiday season.  I mean, we were moving and I just couldn’t cook.  Fine.  BUT, I could have at least ordered grilled chicken or a fruit cup or a large water.  So, there’s no excuse.

Nicole at Juicy Alligator almost got me one day when she posted about another goodie, chocolate chip cookies.  I went to the kitchen to get some cobbler, but got an apple instead.  I was proud.  But, you know what I ate for breakfast the next morning?  That’s right… cobbler.  Urgh!

At this rate, I’ll never get in a bikini again… and, even worst–my whole family has been eating poorly.  I feel this is a reflection on me since I usually make the dinner decisions. I certainly hope I can get it together this week BEFORE the new year.  This is a minor setback and short-lived.  We will eat more healthily tomorrow!

My sister-in-law was here Friday helping us move.  Thanks, Tiffany!  Thanks, Mom and Dad (my in-laws)!

Anywho…

Tiffany and I were discussing Christmas gifts… well, gift-giving in general… actually… more specifically, couples exchanging gifts.

Let me back up.

My husband and I did not exchange gifts this Christmas.  In fact, there’s been several birthdays, graduations, Christmases, and other commercially-recognized days that we skipped the gift-giving expectation altogether.

You’re probably shaking your head at this.

Well, we share a bank account from which we pay joint bills and make joint purchases.  It just seems ridiculous for me to go buy something and give it to him and he go buy something and give it to me just because it’s Christmas.

Not knocking you, if you did this.  Just getting to my point.

Sure, we acknowledge those days, but we take a different approach.  We believe that EVERY day is a day to acknowledge each other.  So we give each other gifts throughout the year.  Remember my post on “What Is The Best Season To Give “?  This happens to be our motto on gift exchanging.

Now back to the discussion that prompted this post…

Tiffany mentioned that my attitude on this subject was perfect for my husband (her brother) because he was so cheap.    I won’t debate whether his being cheap is true (he reads my blog sometimes… hey, Suga!), but I will tell you my response.  I told Tiffany that I really didn’t consider myself cheap, but “practical”.  So, when we exchange gifts throughout the year, it happens to be things that we know the other needs or wants.

I love it when my husband brings flowers home for no reason other than he was thinking of me and thought it might bring a smile to my face.  AND, I love it when he skips the flowers altogether because they are just going to die in a few days and gets me an ink cartridge for my printer or backup drive for my laptop or a new convertible BMW (oops! ) book he knows I’ve been meaning to read.  See?  Practical.

Tiffany asked me whether I’d be just as content with a new vacuum cleaner for a gift as I would a diamond ring.  Absolutely.  If my vacuum was broken, I needed a new one, and it was my birthday or Christmas, I would prefer the vacuum over a ring.  I wear my wedding set and any other piece of jewelry would be unnecessary.

Tiffany looked as if I had lost my mind.

My husband said this was one of the MANY things he loved about me.  That I’m not “high-maintenance”.  I’m not sure if I like the way that sounds, but hey…

I’m cheap practical.  And, yes.  The thought is what counts.  If he rushed out on Christmas Eve to buy me something that was advertised to death during the Christmas season, just to say he bought me a gift for Christmas, I would wonder what was wrong with him.  That’s money we could put on a new washer and dryer.

Furthermore, it could really be argued that moving into our house was our gift to each other.

Is there anybody else with me or did I lose everyone with this post?

Is it the thought or the gift that really counts to you?

The featured picture was taking of my husband cooking as a gift to me in 2005.

Update:  After my husband read this post, I had to add this:  Vacuum or BMW?–no contest!

This picture was taken at my parents’ house in 2006.  We didn’t get around to taking pictures this year, so we have another old one to help us wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy Kwanzaa.

I usually just say “Happy Holidays!”, in case someone doesn’t celebrate Christmas or Kwanzaa or to include Hanukkah and all other religious and cultural holidays this season.  But, since today is Christmas and Kwanza starts tomorrow, I think it’s ok.

Anywho…

When I look at this picture, I am reminded of Christmas time at my parents’ house.  My parents decorate their home annually with a nativity scene, white lights, and a couple of Christmas trees.  They put a lot of time and energy in hanging this-and-that around the house the day after Thanksgiving… and taking it down January 2nd.  Somewhere in the middle of the holiday season, they have a Christmas party where 30-40 people stop by to eat, sing carols, and spend time with each other.

I can picture us sipping eggnog and listening to Nat King Cole’s “The Christmas Song”, which I always thought was entitled “Chestnuts Roasting On An Open Fire”. And, EVERY year I wonder the same thing–why can’t I find eggnog any other time of the year?!

I love Eggnog… my stomach, not so much… but, it tastes great.  Why is it only available during the Thanksgiving through New Year holiday season?   Why not July 4th or Memorial Day?  Those are holidays.  What’s up with this tradition?

Anyone else been wondering this?  Anyone have an answer?

I suppose I could goggle it to find the information like I do everything else but, I gotta get back to boxing stuff up.  We’re still moving.

Have a wonderful holiday!!!

Happy Holidays!

Thanks for visiting my blog during this holiday season.  I know how hectic it can be.  Please have a safe and fun-filled time!

My family’s been spending this week moving… not shopping… not traveling… not cooking potato pies… but, MOVING.  Loads of fun.  So, I’ve been slow to return comments (which I am still going to do, just slowly).  I’ve still been making my daily Entrecard drops because I don’t want my rating to drop to let my droppers down.  Even though I usually have a new post every day, if you are a regular reader, you’ve probably noticed that I’ve skipped 2 days this past week.   Hopefully, after this week, I can resume my regular schedule.

Oh, who am I kidding… no one’s noticed… “regular readers”–ha!

Anywho…

Be sure to check out my most recent post on the Suze Orman Fan Club Community Blog that’s featured today.  If you’re interested in learning how to save money and live a more abundant and powerful financial life, be sure to check that blog frequently, as we discuss Suze’s helpful tips.

Her tips apply to men and women, but if you’re a woman, I highly recommend her book Women and Money.  She speaks directly to the heart of why women deal with money the way we do and explains in detail how to turn things around by starting from within. If you’re looking for more holiday fun, pick up a copy.

   I don’t know when it happened.  Was it after I got married or when my daughter was born?

I’m not sure when or why it happened, but I know how– My husband and daughter drained all the pizazz from me!

I am no longer glamorous (yes, I used to be! ).  I no longer style my hair in the most fashionable way.  I am lucky if I remember to shave my legs and tweeze my eyebrows.  I no longer wear the sexiest, matching undergarments… and maybe worst of all–I no longer do anything for myself.  When was the last time I actually went out alone (without my husband or daughter) or just hung out with a friend?

The realization of my transformation hit me while I was going through some pre-marital/ pre-preggo photos (looking for something to post on my blog, of course).  It really was a sad half hour, perusing through images of the old me.  So, I said to myself, “Self, you have to get out of here and do something for YOURSELF”.

Some may call putting your family ahead of yourself mature and selfless.  Great.  I’m sure it is.  But, at what point does it all become unhealthy?  When will it burn us out?  Shouldn’t moms take time for ourselves and just BE ourselves?… and, that’s if you can even remember who that is… I sure don’t.

I may not remember when I traded in my 5- inch heels for tacky, yet comfortable flip-flops, but I know the moment I decided to not just be Danny’s wife or Dasha’s mother.  Sure, I am those people, but I am also DAVIDA.  I have likes and dislikes… wants and needs.  I enjoy… uh… um… oh yes, that’s right… I remember now.  I enjoy sitting on the sandy beach, eating at cozy restaurants, reading a good book, listening to soothing music, getting my hair done, and going to the movie theater.

So, that’s what we did.  Tasha and I went to the movies (Read what I have to say about “Seven Pounds “).  We left our darlings with their daddies and went out.  We talked, reminisced of old days, laughed at the silly little boys on the corner trying to make a pass at us… and hurried home to see our babies and husbands.

Yes, only a few hours was all it took to re-center ourselves, remember who we are as individuals, enjoy those moments, and go back to our wonderful new lives of diapers, milk bottles, and gassy smiles.  Nothing like a “Girls Day Out” to make us both realize we have new lives… but, they are good ones.

Go out with your girls, ladies, or just spend some quality time alone.  Enjoy YOURSELF.  Your husband and children will be there to love on when you get back.  You’ll be glad you did.

The featured picture is of us in 2006.

I can’t tell you.

No, really.  I can’t tell you.

You’ve probably seen a trailer for the movie and wondered why it is so vague.  To reveal any part of this movie would be to rob you of one heck of an experience.  Tasha and I went to see “Seven Pounds” today, matinee style, while we left our children in the very capable hands of our husbands (tomorrow’s blog post ).  What I can tell you about the movie is IT IS INCREDIBLE.  5 out of 5 stars.

It is meticulously constructed to deliver suspense in its story about several strangers, all inter-connected to Will Smith’s character.  Will portrays his mysterious character in such a way that you know why his movies, “Hancock”, “I Am Legend”, “The Pursuit of Happyness”, “Hitch”, and more, grossed so much at the box office.  Rosario Dawson, Michael Ealy, Barry Pepper, and Woody Harrelson also give outstanding performances as the secrets of this movie unfold, leaving viewers speechless and emotional.

Yes, it is slow at times, but not painfully.  The tempo of the movie is just right to take you on its unforgettable journey.  No, it is not about weight loss/gain or money… and to be honest, I’m still not sure where “pounds” came from.  I can appreciate this in the title, however, because it further hooks us in to the not-so-subtle game of guessing what this movie is really about.

If the movie trailer and this blog post have teased you enough to go see this movie, GOOD.  It is rated PG-13 and runs for 1 hour, 58 minutes.  So, I recommend it for your entire family… at least of teenage years or whomever you think is mature enough to handle… oh, goodness… Just go see it.  I can’t wait for it to come to DVD… so we can add it to our collection… and my husband can finally see it…

If you’ve seen it, what do you think?

If you follow this blog, then you may think I’m going to discuss Caylee’s remains being found and identified, but I’m not.  It’s just too sad.  I’ve heard enough sad stuff today, beginning with my sister-in-law losing her gig.  Besides, Nancy Grace has the Caylee story covered.  You can click on the link above if you want to know the latest developments.  I, on the other hand, need a pick-me-up.  SO…

I am going to post some humor instead.  I found these courtroom quotations on “Things People Said “.  I hope you enjoy.  Share it with your family members and friends who need a laugh too.

Courtroom Quotations

The following quotations are taken from official court records across the nation:

• Lawyer: “This myasthenia gravis — does it affect your memory at all?”
• Witness: “Yes.”
• Lawyer: “And in what ways does it affect your memory?”
• Witness: “I forget.”
• Lawyer: “You forget. Can you give us an example of something that you’ve forgotten?”

• Lawyer: “What was the first thing your husband said to you when he woke that morning?”
• Witness: “He said, ‘Where am I, Cathy?’”
• Lawyer: “And why did that upset you?”
• Witness: “My name is Susan.”

• Lawyer: “Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you check for a pulse?”
• Witness: “No.”
• Lawyer: “Did you check for blood pressure?”
• Witness: “No.”
• Lawyer: “Did you check for breathing?”
• Witness: “No.”
• Lawyer: “So, then it is possible that the patient was alive when you began the autopsy?”
• Witness: “No.”
• Lawyer: “How can you be so sure, Doctor?”
• Witness: “Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar.”
• Lawyer: “But could the patient have still been alive nevertheless?”
• Witness: “Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive and practicing law somewhere.”

• Lawyer: “How far apart were the vehicles at the time of the collision?”

• Lawyer: “What happened then?”
• Witness: “He told me, he says, ‘I have to kill you because you can identify me.’”
• Lawyer: “Did he kill you?”
• Witness: “No.”

• Lawyer: “Now sir, I’m sure you are an intelligent and honest man–”
• Witness: “Thank you. If I weren’t under oath, I’d return the compliment.”

• Lawyer: “You were there until the time you left, is that true?”

• Lawyer: “So you were gone until you returned?”

• Lawyer: “The youngest son, the 20 year old, how old is he?”

• Lawyer: “Were you alone or by yourself?”

• Witness: “He was about medium height and had a beard.”
• Lawyer: “Was this a male or a female?”

• Lawyer: “Mr. Slatery, you went on a rather elaborate honeymoon, didn’t you?”
• Witness: “I went to Europe, sir.”
• Lawyer: “And you took your new wife?”

• Lawyer: “I show you Exhibit 3 and ask you if you recognize that picture.”
• Witness: “That’s me.”
• Lawyer: “Were you present when that picture was taken?”

• Lawyer: “Were you present in court this morning when you were sworn in?”

• Lawyer: “Do you know how far pregnant you are now?”
• Witness: “I’ll be three months on November 8.”
• Lawyer: “Apparently, then, the date of conception was August 8?”
• Witness: “Yes.”
• Lawyer: “What were you doing at that time?”

• Lawyer: “How many times have you committed suicide?”
• Witness: “Four times.”

• Lawyer: “Do you have any children or anything of that kind?”

• Lawyer: “She had three children, right?”
• Witness: “Yes.”
• Lawyer: “How many were boys?”
• Witness: “None.”
• Lawyer: “Were there girls?”

• Lawyer: “You don’t know what it was, and you didn’t know what it looked like, but can you describe it?”

• Lawyer: “You say that the stairs went down to the basement?”
• Witness: “Yes.”
• Lawyer: “And these stairs, did they go up also?”

• Lawyer: “Have you lived in this town all your life?”
• Witness: “Not yet.”

• Lawyer: (realizing he was on the verge of asking a stupid question) “Your Honor, I’d like to strike the next question.”

• Lawyer: “Do you recall approximately the time that you examined the body of Mr. Eddington at the Rose Chapel?”
• Witness: “It was in the evening. The autopsy started about 8:30pm.”
• Lawyer: “And Mr. Eddington was dead at the time, is that correct?”

• Lawyer: “Did you ever stay all night with this man in New York?”
• Witness: “I refuse to answer that question.
• Lawyer: “Did you ever stay all night with this man in Chicago?”
• Witness: “I refuse to answer that question.
• Lawyer: “Did you ever stay all night with this man in Miami?”
• Witness: “No.”

• Lawyer: “What is your marital status?”
• Witness: “Fair.”

• Lawyer: “Are you married?”
• Witness: “No, I’m divorced.”
• Lawyer: “And what did your husband do before you divorced him?”
• Witness: “A lot of things I didn’t know about.”

• Lawyer: “How did you happen to go to Dr. Cherney?”
• Witness: “Well, a gal down the road had had several of her children by Dr. Cherney and said he was really good.”

• Lawyer: “Doctor, how many autopsies have you performed on dead people?”
• Witness: “All my autopsies have been performed on dead people.”

• Lawyer: “Were you acquainted with the deceased?”
• Witness: “Yes sir.”
• Lawyer: “Before or after he died?”

• Lawyer: “Mrs. Jones, is your appearance this morning pursuant to a deposition notice which I sent to your attorney?”
• Witness: “No. This is how I dress when I go to work.”

• The Court: “Now, as we begin, I must ask you to banish all present information and prejudice from your minds, if you have any.”

• Lawyer: “Did he pick the dog up by the ears?”
• Witness: “No.”
• Lawyer: “What was he doing with the dog’s ears?”
• Witness: “Picking them up in the air.”
• Lawyer: “Where was the dog at this time?”
• Witness: “Attached to the ears.”

• Lawyer: “When he went, had you gone and had she, if she wanted to and were able, for the time being excluding all the restraints on her not to go, gone also, would he have brought you, meaning you and she, with him to the station?”
• Other Lawyer: “Objection. That question should be taken out and shot.”

• Lawyer: “And lastly, Gary, all your responses must be oral. Ok? What school do you go to?”
• Witness: “Oral.”
• Lawyer: “How old are you?”
• Witness: “Oral.”

• Lawyer: “Now, you have investigated other murders, have you not, where there was a victim?”

• Lawyer: “Now, doctor, isn’t it true that when a person dies in his sleep, in most cases he just passes quietly away and doesn’t know anything about it until the next morning?”

• Lawyer: “And what did he do then?”
• Witness: “He came home, and next morning he was dead.”
• Lawyer: “So when he woke up the next morning he was dead?”

• Lawyer: “Could you see him from where you were standing?”
• Witness: “I could see his head.”
• Lawyer: “And where was his head?”
• Witness: “Just above his shoulders.”

• Lawyer: “Do you drink when you’re on duty?”
• Witness: “I don’t drink when I’m on duty, unless I come on duty drunk.”

• Lawyer: “Any suggestions as to what prevented this from being a murder trial instead of an attempted murder trial?”
• Witness: “The victim lived.”

  As with many of my blog posts, this one was inspired by a conversation my husband and I were having about whether we should continue the lie uh… hope… no, story about Santa Claus in our household.

The discussion went something like this–

Should we tell our child[ren] there is a jolly old white man with a long white beard, wearing a warm red and white suit, who rides in a sleigh pulled by reindeer from the North pole, and delivers gifts to good boys and girls all over the world, in one night, on Dec. 24th, every year?  If so, is this lying because we know doggone well we are the ones buying the gifts OR is it giving our child[ren] hope in something good?

Gosh–I hope I’m not breaking the news to anyone…

Is it fostering creativity and imagination in the young, tender, innocent mind of a child OR is it misrepresenting history and passing on a traditional tale which derived from St. Nicholas?  Is it making Christmas fun for the bright-eyed,  easily-excitable young child OR ruining Christmas for older children who have finally discovered the truth?  Should we focus solely on the spirit of giving and only teach Christmas from a spiritual or religious point of view OR is it ok to incorporate both stories in our child[ren]’s lives?

I know we aren’t the only ones to have had this dilemma!  So, do you give hope in Santa or do you stick with the truth in your household?  If you don’t have children, what would you do?

I guess whatever decision we make will carry over to the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny, Jack Frost, and the Boogie Man.  Thankfully, we still have another year or so to decide.

The featured picture is from Christmas 2007. I don’t think we’re going to take any this year… at least we haven’t yet.